Today’s post is really to offer encouragement and support if you re pregnant or not. I’m looking to share my experiences with you. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, but some days can be a little difficult. The inevitable changes of pregnancy can sometimes be overwhelming, and you really must depend on yourself and your support people to stay confident through it all. Today I wanted to share a few of these changes with you all and how I am overcoming them and staying confident through it all. I hope that if any of you out there are first time mothers or have kids, that this will be of some help or you can relate in some way to all of this.
The last nine months of my life have been such a whirlwind. We went from not knowing if we wanted children, to deciding that we did, then the waiting game began, and then voila, I was pregnant. It all happened within the course of a year and the last 9 months have brought on some inevitable changes for me. When you become pregnant it doesn’t hit you right away that your life is about to change forever.
As I am nearing the end now, and my sewing room has become a nursery, and the nesting stage has become so real. I’ve started thinking about things I never thought I would have to think about. I’ve begun to think about breastfeeding, daycare, my child’s education, and a lot about the future and how my mindset has changed so much in so little time.
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Mental & Emotional Changes
One of my biggest challenges was controlling my emotions during the early stages of my pregnancy. I am naturally just an emotional person and I will cry for everything. However, this type of emotionally charged feelings I had at times came with some down times where I felt like I would never be the same woman again. I really began to doubt myself. Going through my 20’s I had a very difficult time finding out who I am and what I wanted to do with my life. I know I still have so much more to learn, and a way to go. But all the emotions and hormones flowing through me had me doubting myself and wondering if I would ever become the woman I was meant to be.
One of the ways I overcame this was learning to communicate this to my support people. One of these people is my husband. My husband is a very quiet man, and he is great at listening, if I don’t go on for too long. But I learned that one of the ways to overcome my crazy emotional times was to express what I was feeling and ask for advice. Because as many people will tell you, you’re not in your right mind with all your crazy hormones out of whack. It’s so important to communicate with someone who can offer you an outside perspective, so you can distinguish between, what’s a real and what’s not. Don’t be afraid to talk through things, whether it’s with a spouse, best friend or mom. Reaching out for advice can help alleviate all the mental & emotional changes you can experience during pregnancy.
Staying Body Positive during Pregnancy
As you know, during pregnancy you body grows in many different places and in strange ways. This was one of my biggest worries towards the end of my 2nd trimester. I can remember I had a doctor’s appointment towards the middle of my 2nd trimester. My OB basically told me that I needed to slow down the weight gain because it was too much. I went home and cried that day. I felt like I had been working so hard to eat for one person, not two.
It took me a few days to recover from that doctor’s visit and I was still very emotional as well. Going into my pregnancy I was not at an ideal weight. I am very petite, so I tend to be more towards the curvy side, which I have no problem with. I realized after a few days, that to control the weight gain, and not be so emotional, I needed a plan.
This plan consisted of me doing more cardio outdoors, which my husband also helped me with. It consisted of me dedicating every Sunday to meal prep and cooking balanced meals for myself. Also focusing on work and re-launching my blog helped me put energy into the things I love again. My mind was also more stimulated creatively. I still enjoyed food and indulged occasionally, but for the most part as soon as I stuck to my plan, I was good.
The next time I went for my checkup I hadn’t gained any weight. Obviously it didn’t stay that way. So far, re-focusing helped me get back on track and stay body positive throughout the rest of my pregnancy. Weight gain and bodily changes are inevitable, but they are not permanent. You are growing a tiny human inside of you, with that comes many changes in your body.
Ignoring the Negative Comments
It’s crazy to me how people feel it’s ok to be a little more blunt or rude to you when you are pregnant. Granted, there are many people who are incredibly nice as well. That being said, I have had so many comments made to me while being pregnant that I never expected. It’s such a strange feeling to be walking along and someone say “que barrigona” which means “potbellied”. Or I’ve gotten the comment “Wow, you’re so huge, are you having twins or triplets?”. I have also gotten comments like “Do you think you will be coming back to work after your maternity leave?” or “we’ll see if she comes back.”
So many comments! The only thing I can say that I have learned is to take everything people say to you very lightly. Unless someone is telling you how beautiful you look, smile, ignore and move on. I never thought pregnancy would give me the opportunity to grow a thicker skin, but it has. So many people will feel like they need to tell you how to feel, comment on your looks, or give you contradicting advice. So many of these things will come your way during your pregnancy. By the end of the 2nd trimester you have heard it all. You need to filter out the negative and keep the light and good vibes people send your way. You will get lots of those good vibes as well, and you will remember them.
Staying Confident Through It All
Between the crazy emotional changes, bodily changes, and negativity, you will learn just how strong you are. You will learn how much you need a good support system, whether near or far. The only way to overcome all these inevitable changes and keep your confidence up is to do the following. Don’t be afraid to speak up, when you need to talk. Re-focus your energy on positive things and do things you love during your pregnancy.
Ignore all the negativity around you. Surround your self with good strong people who inspire you to be amazing every day. Lastly, take time for yourself. Don’t stop doing things for yourself while you are pregnant because you need to love yourself first, in order to love someone else. And I’m told that the little one that is on the way will need lots and lots of love.
This post is a little longer than normal. But today, I wanted to offer you all some encouragement. Whether you are pregnant, or you are thinking about becoming pregnant or you just need some encouragement. I hope this will give you all some good vibes and lift your spirits today. Thanks so much for following along on my journey into motherhood. If you have any advice I would love to hear about it. Don’t hesitate to leave me a comment below or shoot me an email and I would love to chat.
XOXO, Happy Girl
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